tesslynch:

17. Getting married isn’t about you. That’s why you don’t have to worry about things being perfect, nobody messing anything up, and remembering to throw your bouquet (whoops…I was busy eating). Getting married is a symbolic process that changes your relationship by posing the question: would you go through all of this for anybody else? The shopping for linens and re-mailing Aunt Sue’s invitation 50 times because she doesn’t know her own address; the fights about table charts and the fights about forever? That’s why everyone should be able to get married if they want to. Weddings take on their own life force and show you, as in a mirror, who you are as a couple. It’s more important, maybe, for other people to see this than for you. The feeling that the people who are most important in your life support your union is powerful, even for cynics…

18. …so don’t be a dick if someone becomes consumed by their own wedding. They will later become aware of how unattractive this was, but it is necessary for them. They’re changing. When we see ourselves changing, we’re fascinated.